UUGHH…Let me just start this by saying I know people are going to have opinions and I can’t change that ever. However it doesn’t make them any less annoying and unwanted. Especially from family!
I mean I get it from strangers, but when it is from people who know your child that is when I want to take my foot to their butts… People just have the need to voice their opinion on what they think Autism means to them. What they have gotten from media on what it means to have an Autistic Child.
So basically my Father-in-law doesn’t feel I am acknowledging the fact that my son is extremely smart.. Well he says “genius”… What he fails to see is that I see how smart my son is, however I know that this isn’t uncommon for Autistic children. He likes to point out that my son is meticulous, methodical, precise and thorough. Heck I don’t know, I am only the mom here and lived with him since birth, I guess I failed to see that in him. **face palm** How could I ever have missed the very things that make our life so different from most peoples.
See here is the thing, people feel they need to point out the obvious. Well people let me just tell ya, WE DIDN’T MISS THAT and we are WELL AWARE of the quirks our kids present in life. NEWSFLASH BEEN HERE 24/7, 365 DAYS A YEAR and I promise I wasn’t checked out.
See when people start to question his Autism diagnosis I start to wonder “Did I push to hard for a diagnosis?” “Could it be he is not Autistic and I am just to focused on it to see it?” The answer to all these questions is NOPE! But I let uneducated people get in my head. I have never wanted to be a special needs parent, I have never wanted to have an Autistic child. However that is what I am. I am dealing with it the best way I know how at this time. How about instead of questioning the diagnosis you offer to help and be supportive. The last thing we all need is another opinion. Yeah Thanks but No Thanks! Trust me I know we all have one but it doesn’t mean we need to say them out loud. Here is what we do need:
- Someone to listen when Autism takes over our life, because it will trust me. Therapy, doctors appointments, IEP’s, and learning how to incorporate it into life!
- Someone to give us a breather. Believe it or not, even Super Moms as we are often referred to as, need a break.
- Bring us a coffee: Yup just a small gesture will sometimes turn a day of meltdowns into a tolerable day.
- And LEAN in because here is the hardest one to do and believe: USE COMMON SENSE, help us as you would any other parent! There is nothing in this list that any parent doesn’t need from time to time. We are all human, we are all tired, and we all need help. So just be there for us as you would anyone else..
Your judgment and opinions need to be checked at the door, trust me we get that enough from strangers.
Mommie Done Flipped 